Have you ever met a person and thought, “I want to be like that when I grow up”? Mentoring is a fancy word for “example.” It’s a person who’s hands-on in your life and sets an example. There are various places to find mentors. Some moms find them when they join play groups or support groups.
Others look in places of worship to find women of common interests or cultural backgrounds. A mentor is someone who has been where you are going. She’s faced the same struggles, experienced the same joys, and usually has good advice.
Mentoring is not a new concept. Even the Bible talks about this type of relationship. Titus 2:4-5 (Message) says, “By looking at [older women], the younger women will know how to love their husband and children, be virtuous and pure, keep a good house, be good wives.”
Many times mentoring also moves past the outward stuff and unites hearts. And while it may seem like the younger mother reaps all the benefits, older mentors greatly enjoy the relationship too. So when you spot someone who may fit the role, don’t be afraid to ask her to be your mentor. Offer to have her over for a soda and use the opportunity to listen to her stories and enjoy her company. She’ll appreciate getting to know you in an intimate way and will cherish the joy of helping, as perhaps she was once helped.
Have you considered looking for a mentor? A role model? Someone who’s done what you dream about doing?
When you look for a female mentor, ask yourself the following questions:
• Who do I admire? Do I have an older friend, relative, or perhaps a leader in a Teen MOPS group that I’d enjoy spending more time with?
• Does this person have time to spend with me?
• What can this person teach me about life? Parenting? Following dreams? Will this person encourage my growth?
• Is this person a healthy role model? Is she honest? Truthful? Accepting? Supportive?
• Does this person take time to listen to my concerns? Can I open up to this person? Can this person be trusted with my confidence?
If you find someone, here are steps to setting up a mentoring relationship:
• Ask if she’d be interested in becoming a mentor.
• State what you’re looking for.
• Take time to interact, to listen, and to care.
• Give as well as receive.
I hope your search is fruitful!