Will He Ever Marry You?

It seems that a ton of my girlfriends are either jumping the broom or are newly engaged. Not that I am rushing anything, or being impatient as hell and wondering what in the world is wrong with me, but I will be honest in saying why hasn’t it happened to me yet? (Well it has but not by my ideal guy.) I seem to think that I’m pretty attractive, intelligent, well-educated, independent, ambitious, career oriented, loving, kind and supportive. Why in the world am I not even close to marriage. I mean I haven’t had a serious, meaningful relationship in years.

Well enough about me. Many of my associates and former schoolmates who are currently in relationships and have been for years, share my same sentiments. They have a man to call their own, may even be living with him and no ring. What are us ladies doing wrong?

According to an article I read in Cosmopolitan and clinical psychologist Alon Gratch, PhD, author of If Men Could Talk, he stated:

“In my 25 years of experience working with men as a relationship therapist, it’s 49 percent the right woman, 51 percent his readiness to commit.”

That means that compatibility is hugely important. But if he’s not in a marriage mind-set yet, he’s not going to commit to anyone…not even Halle Berry.

As a matter of fact, the article went on to say that 81 percent of the married men surveyed by the National Marriage Project said one reason they decided to wed was because it was the right time to settle down.

So there it is ladies. Despite how much lingerie we buy from Vicki’s or how many hours we invest daily in slaving over a hot stove to prepare home-cooked meals, if he ain’t ready, he ain’t taking the bait. Once again, the ball is in his court. What’s a girl to do?